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Saturday, 7 August 2021

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MUM- TO A LITTLE GIRL...

 I've asked myself this question over and over again. This is hands down the hardest thing I have ever done. this question is the hardest to answer as well and in some ways so simple.

Yes, to give birth ...

Yes , to adapt a child/children...

Yes, to have a family...

But let's be honest with ourselves, being a mother is so much more.

For me being a mum to Rhea as been completely overwhelming with responsibilities, love, tears, joy, confusion and selflessness. Being a mum as been somewhat of a roller coaster for me. If you have been following my blog for a while then you will notice that I've mentioned that Rhea was a shy and reserved child when younger(somewhat still a little reserved, but I guess that's just apart of her personality).

I had to acknowledge the profound value in learning and understanding who my daughter is, and even though she didn't speak much back then, I had to try and figure out her thoughts and emotions in specific times when she felt shy and reassured her that I am and will always be here. From these episodes I would then encourage and teach her to be the best version of herself. Bare in mind, I had to teach myself how to be a mum to a shy child. So we  are both learning. That's when I noticed she loves dancing, so I encouraged her to work on this , and in doing so built her confidence.

It's my greatest hope that my unconditional love will empower and strengthen her, as well as foster her self-confidence and kindness. (ps. she is just too kind for this cruel world).

Helping my daughter through all the crazy things life throws at her at such a young age, while lifting her up so she can reach for the stars. For me that's what being a mum is.

I'm her biggest cheerleader(as much as she is mine)

I'm her motivational speaker

I'm her confidant

I'm her protector

I'm her guidance counsellor, and the list goes on.

Being a mum means sacrificing my time, my finances, my sleep, my mental health. Whether we believe it or not, being a mum sometimes means sacrificing buying that wig or going to the hairdresser one month because your child as outgrown all his/her clothes and needs a wardrobe update (why do they grow so fast though haha). |Being a mum means enduring painful situations to ensure your child is happy. Being a mum means wearing my heart on my shoulder, out there afraid and vulnerable, yet somehow finding such fulfilment that I am able to appreciate the beautiful scary journey. Though it is maddening and terrifying at times, it is also the most beautiful and glorious experience.

so, when you open your mouth to judge a hard working mum who gives motherhood the best she can, bite your tongue first. It's a hell of a job. Imagine working a full time nightshift job, then coming home to be a mum. hmm girlll it isn't easy. But I wouldn’t trade a moment of it. Being a mum makes me so much more and makes me want to be so much more.. what can I say.. it’s a blessing !!

 Gold medal for the mums with 2 or more kids. I honour you.


It's a feeling not an explanation, when you feel it and experience it, you'll know it!! 

Sometimes the smallest things takes up the biggest space in your heart ❤


Thanks for stopping by loves, Good night and Good morning

xoxo Patrice 




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  1. Awwww love it and I totally understand I know exactly what u mean... it’s hard but we would do it over in a heartbeat

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